Parenting…one of life’s great joys! Today’s post is brought to you by a revelation, of sorts, from this morning.
Yesterday I received a series of text messages from Little Miss. She was using my mom’s phone and I was stuck in traffic for an extraordinarily unusual amount of time. In the series of text messages, she told me how much she loved me and how glad she was that I was her mom.
I’d be lying if I said it didn’t make me feel awesome.
This morning, on the way to school, as we were eating our breakfast in the car, she told me she wanted to be just like me when she grew up. I’ve grown accustomed to a high amount of maturity from Little Miss over the years; so much so that it’s sometimes easy to forget she’s only 8. Hearing this statement this morning, it sounded so innocent and childlike that it tugged at my heartstrings.
I asked her why. She said, “Because I love you and you’re awesome and I want to be just like you.”
Mamas, our children are listening. They’re watching. What we show them is what they will aspire to do.
As if it isn’t weighty enough to know that raising a child falls squarely on our shoulders as parent, suddenly there’s this realization that, regardless of age, our children will always be our mimics.
That could be a lot of pressure.
Or it could be an opportunity.
We need to take parenting very seriously. We in this vocation are called to be wives first. A huge part of our marriage vows, however, is that we lovingly and willingly accept children into our marriage from the Lord.
“In children we have a great charge committed to us. Let us bestow great care upon them, and do everything that the Evil One may not rob us of them. But now our practice is the reverse of this. We take all care indeed to have our farm in good order, and to commit it to faithful manager…but we do not look out for what is much more important, for a person to whom we may commit our son as the guardian of his morals, though this is a possession much more valuable than all others. It is for him indeed that we take such care of our estate. We take care of our possessions for our children, but of the children themselves we take no care at all. Form the soul of thy son aright, and all the rest will be added hereafter.” ~St. John Chrysostom
I don’t pretend to have all the answers. As I stated, I’m only 8 years into this gig, so I definitely don’t pretend to be an expert, either. But I do think there are some universal truths that we can all apply to our parenting to help us be successful.
We are our children’s role models. Let’s make sure we’re modeling something worth repeating.