It happened! Our sweet Little Miss made her First Holy Communion this past weekend. We are so proud of her!
Pink is her favorite color, so she had to let that show. She also wanted a veil because now that she’s receiving the Eucharist she wants to veil all the time.
I cannot believe she’s already here, getting yet another sacrament. She’s growing up too fast! But it’s totally worth it when she says things like “Mom, I love church. You know why? Because I get to receive Jesus.”
This Momma’s heart swells with pride.
God grants us His Divine Mercy because He loves us. And it’s beautiful. Kristi and I had already met but we bonded over the Divine Mercy devotion at our parish over the course of two years. It’s comforting. Truly, it’s love. I love my husband, but that doesn’t mean that mercy comes easily.
A new command I give you: Love one another. As I have loved you, so you must love one another. By this everyone will know that you are my disciples, if you love one another. ~John 13:34-35
I always need help in this department. I am only human. My faults in this area are not to listening to God when he is instructing me on my relationships. I always think that I can do it better, but God’s way is the only way.
Recently I had to go to St. Louis alone for a family emergency. My grandmother, with whom I was really close, died. Her death was peaceful and beautiful; all the things I pray for when I go. I was home with my family for about two weeks, which meant that I left the Scientist at home with the puppy. Those two weeks were probably the most difficult separation in our marriage. Unfortunately he couldn’t make the trip with me because of his job.
Long story short, we had a tough time communicating. Different time scheduling and the inability to always video chat led to a lot of miscommunication where the meaning and nuances lost in texts and calls were the culprits. Thinking about the Divine Mercy and how we usually handle the little miscommunications and annoyances in our marriage, I have come up with some tools and advice to better communicate within your relationships with your spouse and others.
Try asking God to soften your heart to those who offend you. This is the most important, for you can’t have an open heart or be vulnerable if your heart is not ready. Taking time to pray and reflect on yourself before you try to work on the problem with others gives you focus for the problem.
I have the most issues with this concept. I’m such a hot head, my mouth is quick, and it cuts. I always have to think about what I am going to say versus what I am actually thinking. Taking that time to discern (even pray) is a form of focus and centering both your mouth and thoughts on God and what he wants you to say.
Forgiveness is definitely one of the harder things to do, because we are human. We hate to see our own faults and shortcomings but are quick to point out others’. The most healing words for your own soul and peace of mind are “I forgive you.” Those words will set you free of anger and allow you to heal and move on.
Learning to accept that your marriage (and spouse!) is not perfect will help it to become real. Once you accept your marriage as real, you can build a life that both of you are proud of. Every time disappointment rises in your marriage (which will happen a lot) I suggest you look for the good things in your spouse; the things that they do that make your day.
Looking for the good is always better then searching out the bad. We all have shortcomings and those shortcomings can become disappointments to your spouse. You would want some one to look and treat you with the good that you have in your heart, not the darkness.
Being able to look inwards and find the courage to thank your spouse and God for their forgiveness is a perfect way to acknowledge the mercy being shown to you. Saying thank you is not only a sign of respect but it also lets them know that you are grateful for their presence in your life. Realizing when you are wrong and sharing how much you appreciate it when they have patience with you despite that can go a long way.
When the opposite is true and your spouse is the one who’s wrong, there’s no need to brag or rub it in their face when they are wrong. Just be grateful and move on with love.
When all else fails, utter the words Jesus taught St. Faustina, which are emblazoned across the image of the Divine Mercy: Jesus, I trust in You. Placing your faith in God in prayer and in action (words and deeds) is powerful in showing mercy to others. We know it takes three to have a successful marriage, so when the waters get a bit choppy with my husband, I can turn to the third person of the relationship to help me.
I am by no means perfect but I try to live my marriage in love and peace. I can only control my heart and reactions. With mercy as my daily focus within my marriage, I’m getting better at that control. How do you show mercy to your spouse? Let us know in the comments or use the hashtag #MercifulMarriage on Facebook, Twitter, and Instagram and let us know there.
P.S. Wanna know more about St. Faustina and the Divine Mercy? Check out EWTN’s webpage all about it.
Happy Friday! We have a new FIAT: Faith in All Things logo! Sorry for the delay in the posting. Little Miss is making her First Holy Communion this weekend and things are kind of all over the place! In honor of Little Miss’s big day and the season of sacraments in general, we’re discussing memories of our own First Holy Communions and Confirmations.
Here’s a picture of Rachel on her First Holy Communion Day (Kristi’s mom hasn’t yet developed the film from her big day…yes, you read that right!). So cute!
Grab a glass of iced tea or lemonade (the weather’s getting warmer!) and join us in today’s conversation.
Have a great weekend!
Kristi & Rachel
Have you heard of Spoken Bride yet? It’s an amazing lifestyle blog for Catholic weddings (think the Knot, only Catholic) and for Catholic newlyweds! It’s super beautiful, filled with information, and wants to feature your Catholic wedding on its page! You’ll definitely want to check it out.
Since they’re a wedding and newlywed website and we’re a newlywed and beyond website, we thought we’d team up to bring you a guest post! And since we’re in the season of sacraments and Little Miss’ First Holy Communion is approaching, we asked Spoken Bride Business Director Andi Compton to write an article for us about her daughter’s First Holy Communion.
Andi Compton is a California girl, wife to Matt, momma to 4 crazy kids + 1 furbaby, and a wedding coordinator. She loves to read, sew and quilt, craft, and binge watch BBC period dramas, The Office, 30 Rock, and Parks and Rec. Andi loves the universality of the Church, and getting to worship God at Mass and in adoration all over the world.
I LOVE getting to celebrate the Sacraments! For me, the huge outpouring of God’s grace in a tangible way that we can see, taste, touch, smell, and hear, is something I want my children to remember. As my eldest daughter approached her First Communion, I decided to celebrate it as a mini wedding for her so she will hopefully remember the significance of the day when she first came into full communion with her Lord and Savior.
Planning and preparation began at school and at church where she was learning the Baltimore Catechism and diving a little deeper into her faith. I supplemented with Kendra Tierney’s book, A Little Book about Confession, to get her excited about Reconciliation, and with The King of the Golden City, An Allegory for Children, a very sweet book to teach children about preparing their hearts to receive the King of Kings.
As we inched closer to the big day, we realized that Ella fit into the First Communion gown my grandmother had made, and that my cousin and I had worn 20 some odd years earlier. Unfortunately, the linen had yellowed, but with a little research I discovered Linen Restoration. If you have an heirloom gown that has discoloration, I HIGHLY recommend you invest in a bottle, soak your garment overnight in the bathtub (twice if it’s really bad), and either hand wash with gentle detergent or run it through your machine on the delicate cycle and air dry. The dress looked brand new! When we visited my grandparents in the spring, my amazing grandmother removed the sleeves and turned them into a bolero for Mass. My daughter loved the updates! I had been saving the blusher from our wedding for this moment so I grabbed a comb and sewed it on – simple but beautiful.
Ella also likes to plan parties so she got to be involved picking out the colors and theme (France – the daughter of the Church), and deciding who to invite, and what to eat. We ordered simple pink rose and baby’s breath centerpieces to be made, and worked hard the day before with final food preparations.
On the day of I hired a friend of mine to come early and help us get everyone ready and to stay at our home while we were at church and finish preparing and setting out the food. I can’t even tell you how much I appreciated her help! It was worth it just to be fully present at Mass, not worrying about racing home to get food on the table.
I can’t even begin to describe the total sereneness and joy that the day brought us. It was like our wedding all over again- we couldn’t stop smiling. I am not an emotional person, but seeing all the little ones in their fancy dresses and suits lined up made me tear up. The processed in so sweetly, with their little hands folded, bowing at the altar. Father gave a great homily involving the children, getting them excited for the moment that was to come. He also did a really neat thing, having the parishioners receive Communion first and then inviting the children up. We managed to have seats right up front and getting to watch that moment nearly made my heart explode with joy!
Our prayer for our daughter is that she never stays far away from Jesus in the Eucharist. Having one child receive the Eucharist has made me that much more excited for the rest of our crew to be able to receive…in 2018, 2020, and 2022.
Check out more of Andi’s thoughts and a compilation of other’s thoughts on marriage and newlywed life at Spoken Bride.
We are so excited to finally announce that we’ve written our FIRST guest post! As we both met our wonderful hubbies on Catholic Match, we partnered with them in this guest post about what surprised us in marriage. This article originally appeared on CatholicMatch.
I remember, at age nine, knowing I’d one day be a wife and mother. I had it all planned out. I’d marry a handsome, wonderful man at 18, have my first child at 23, and go on to have five. Boom! Happily ever after!
Although I did have my first child at 23 and I am married to a handsome, fabulous man, my journey was wrought with many turns and surprises. Marriage has its fair share of surprises, too.
I knew, of course, that it’d be different, but the thing I expected to be the most challenging ended up being a breeze, and things I didn’t even register as a possibility to cause surprise did.
The priest finished saying, “For the first time, let me introduce you to Mr. and Mrs. Washington.” My husband looked at me and winked. That moment was when it became real to me: I’m married to the man of my dreams.
I knew that our life would be a fairy tale. Fast forward two weeks and I’m telling myself, “I know Mom said that marriage is hard work but I didn’t realize how hard.”
I thought I was prepared. I took the classes, had uncomfortable conversations with my parents, got the things I needed to set up a household, but my unrealistic dream of a fairy tale marriage was the problem. My thoughts on how it was going to be were definitely not what God (or my husband) had planned for us. There are ton of wonderful—and not so wonderful—surprises that I encountered since marrying.
But that’s not all, you guys.
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